It is one thing to have a partner who is always in control of the situation, and another thing altogether to have a partner who controls all your habits.
These days, it is a lot easier to get into a relationship with a control freak. We get too obsessed with being in love that we pay a blind eye to the red flags being waved right in front of our faces. Who is a potential control freak you may ask?
- They have manipulative tendencies
- They are overprotective
- They bully and take advantage of your emotions
- Make decisions without consulting you
- They get overly jealous
Even the little suggestive comments about what you should wear, what time you need to be home, and your choice of friends, can be controlling behaviors.
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Dating a control freak can be tedious, not to mention scary. However, there are ways you can use to maneuver around a control freak.
Here are some:
- Prioritize being calm
The first thing that comes to mind when your partner tries to control you is yelling. That is not a good idea since it will make both of you too riled up to talk. Instead, approach the situation with caution, but still, be assertive.
- Don’t try to play the player
You may think that trying to control the control freak will somewhat give you leverage. Unfortunately for you though, things will get worse if you do this. In the end, you cannot change them, you can only change your attitude.
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- Set boundaries for yourself
Make it a priority to let your controlling partner know that there are some aspects of your life they cannot interfere in. Something as simple as the way you dress should not be influenced by your partner. If they do something that does not do right by you, tell them. You are in a relationship, after all, not a military camp.
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- Try to correct their controlling habits
Once you start to feel as though your partner is being a little bit controlling, find calm and sensible ways of pointing the issue out to them. Let them know that it is not right and that they need to correct themselves.
At times, controlling partners can get too intense, even for you. Just know that it is okay to let go when it becomes too overwhelming to handle.
