Because of the close bond we have with our friends, we always want to stand up for them. However, we should not feel tied down to fight all their battles.
There are so many ups and downs in all friendships if their intrigues are anything to go by. As human beings, we get solace from knowing that we have a close-knit circle of friends who will ride for us no matter what. And by that code, we tend to distance ourselves from those who do not return that favor. The correct term for it would be ‘cutting’ them off.
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Truth be told, if your friendship is built on solid rock, it is a given that they will take a bullet for you. When we get ourselves into tight fixes, we expect that our friends will stick it out for us. If they don’t, we get furious about it. Here is the thing though, as much as we would have the entitlement to always get support from our friends, sometimes our battles are our own, and we should not get the rest involved.
Look at it from the perspective of, maybe your friends have their sticky situation going on. So, cushioning you and themselves at the same time may take a toll on them. However, they cannot tell you out of fear that you will think they are not legit friends, or they are just there for all the good times.
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You have to understand that even your friends have their lives to deal with. They have family problems, daddy issues may be, and relationship drama, and that is just highlighting pieces of a bigger cake. They do not always have to fight your battles for you.
At least it is not in the actual ways you would like. We should find acceptance in knowing that their presence and care alone are enough. They don’t have to punch your ex in the face (unless of course, it comes down to it), yell at your enemies, or even dislike the people you do.
Friendships thrive on knowing that you will have each other’s back, whether or not they choose to actively take part in your battles. When they do decide to be on the sidelines, keep in mind that it is nothing personal.