By Shukri Osman,
Hollywood actress, dancer, and model, Cheryl Burke, has opened up about her sex life.
Burke, 38, revealed on Tuesday’s edition of her podcast Burke in the Game, that she had not been totally honest during her appointment with sex therapist Miss Jaiya last week.
Because she has always been “an open book” with her followers, the professional dancer who filed for divorce from husband Matthew Lawrence in February, felt she wanted to disclose her experience.
“When it comes to intercourse, I’ve never really had an orgasm before,” she added. “This isn’t a reflection of any of the partners I’ve had. It is merely a reflection of myself.”
“I suppose the reason I didn’t want to express anything [at the time] was because I didn’t want to upset anyone. However, that has nothing to do with the individual; it is entirely about me, my guilt, my child trauma, and my vulnerability.” she said.
During TLC’s documentary Breaking the Silence in 2015, Burke touched on her childhood abuse. Her father left for Thailand when she was a small girl, and her mother remarried and entrusted her care to a neighbor in his 60s while she was in kindergarten. She said that this is when the pattern of molestation began.
“He’d cuddle me and force me to watch obscene films. He was almost like a father figure to me, and I believe he sensed my vulnerability and insecurity. He was well aware that no one was ever present.”
“I couldn’t stand out for myself. It was difficult for me to refuse. It was as though I didn’t want to damage him in some strange manner.”
While advertising her interview with Jaiya, the television personality announced on Instagram that she hasn’t had sex since 2021.”
On the most recent edition of her podcast, Burke addressed the backlash to her social media disclosure.
“It feels so good to know I’m not alone,” she expressed her gratitude. “Some of you have gone years without it, and everyone says it’s because there hasn’t been the perfect one yet, and I believe in today’s culture, we sorta criticize the idea that we have to have sex every week just to feel like we’re enough, and I don’t agree.”
“I used to have to desire that,” she added, “and I guess it was because I didn’t think I was enough and needed to justify myself via physical activity.” Burke told People in May, that her new podcast will be “vulnerable.”
“This is truly opening up my life,” she explained, “which I feel like comes naturally, but I also have to be good with giving up my emotions.” “This is a very difficult period in my life for me right now, and I believe what I naturally do is construct a wall. And while I am not reachable in that sense, I believe it is part of my training to be able to let down my guard regardless of sentiments and be good with it.”
Listeners will have a voice in the show’s direction, according to Burke.
“My fate is in the hands of [the listeners],” she said.“They have the option of answering whatever question we pose. It’s all about preparing me for a date by completing the necessary self-work and including them.”
