Parents always have this perfect build-up image of their kids in their minds. At one point, the urge to want their kids to be perfect gets out of hand and leads to the distraction of their children’s self-image. The want for perfection from children comes about due to different reasons.
A major reason is a parent being an overachiever and wanting to show off using their children’s achievements. Every parent wants the success and wellbeing of their children but when a child is only made to feel good about themselves when they achieve something, this creates a sense of overachievement.
This will create the illusion to children that they are only good enough when having an achievement to show off. This parenting will also lead to children becoming introverted and not able to speak out for themselves.
Taking up a different approach during parenting is needed. Extending grace is important, as much as you as a parent want your child to be on top of every game sometimes things don’t work out that way. At a period when your child has not won an achievement give them a word of encouragement for the next activity that will lead to an award.
Checking on how your child is doing mentally is an important step in improving your child’s self-image. Working to gain something can be full of fatigue both physically and mentally. Let your child know they can take a break and reboot their energy. This will give out the safety of your child coming to you in a moment of weakness.
Pay attention to your children’s interests. turning their energy to what interests them will make them achieve great things while having fun doing it. parenting is not all about what your child can bring to the table but how you will relate with them. Keeping an environment full of love is important.
