I am dating! He is so nice, he does this and that, he calls me babe, and he treats me right and serves as my safe space. I just love everything about him. This statement quickly turns into he wasted my time and he was not even my type. It’s over. Healing, moving on, or finding a bounce partner occupies the mind. The choice is usually the latter. It’s the normal move.
Moving on after a breakup can be draining, tough, and full of flashbacks.
Here are some tips to help you:
Allow yourself to grieve. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, lonely, used, or even relieved after a breakup. Don’t try to suppress your emotions or pretend that you’re not hurting. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and even better to let them out.
Talk to someone you trust. Talking to a friend, a therapist or family or anyone you trust allows you to pour out yourself and feel less lonely.
Speaking to the mirror has also proven to be a good way of letting your emotions out.
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Focus on your own happiness. This is your time to focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and that make you excited about the future. Take some time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy and that make you feel good. This could include spending time with friends and family, going out for walks, reading, listening to music, or anything else that brings you joy.
Don’t stalk your ex on social media. This will only make it harder for you to move on. Delete your ex’s number and block them on social media so that you’re not tempted to check up on them. By following up on what they are doing and who they are will only drain you and drive your feelings toward hate.
Don’t rush into a new relationship. It’s tempting to want to fill the void left by your ex with someone new, but it’s important to give yourself time to heal before you start dating again.
Riley Clemmons shares a few steps on her song ‘am healing’.
Moving on after a breakup is a process of self-actualization, self-love, and care. It is not a one-time acceptance of being alone. Instead of rushing to get into the next relationship, improve, be better, grow, and connect with people openly.
