By Faith Mudoga,This Episode of Switchpod focused on young women and why they prefer older men as the Wababa’s epidemic sweeps the street of Nairobi.With the hike in prices of basic commodities, ladies have decided not to be left behind but to also hike their standards and say ‘may the highest bidder win’. Relationships came by easy back in the day. All you needed to fuel it was love and everything else would flow but that isn’t the case right now. Today ladies are looking at what a man is bringing to the table and forgetting other important aspects of what makes a relationship.
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| So should we blame men for pushing women to this point or should we blame women for choosing that path? Source: Switchpod |
Regardless of a man’s age, looks or whether he has a wife, ladies don’t care. As long as the man is financially capable of satisfying her financial needs that’s all that matters.
“Nowadays you just can’t take a woman at the kibandaski and buy her chapati and beans.” Said PNK the Switchpod host.
The question is love or money? And when a guy goes broke should you move to the next one? Funny enough if you ask most women this question they will say it’s money first, then love.
“I was actually embarrassed during my first date because I was taken to a restaurant where I was expected to use a knife and folk and I had no idea how to go about it. So the guy really set the standards and expecting anything less from another man was not on the table,” says Marya, the Chokoza hitmaker.
Marya says at one point she thought she was in love but the guy ended up leaving her for another lady who had money. From then on she decided she was also going to look for a guy who had money because even if you date a broke guy they will still leave you. It’s better to be left by the rich than you find yourself another rich one.
“If I don’t protect myself nobody will protect me. I can never trust a woman who comes into my life when I have already made it. You are jumping straight to 9th floor instead of building the foundation with me,” PNK says.
The reason most women in Nairobi will give you for choosing to date Wababa (sponsor) is that they were once loyal and cheated on or disrespected. So should we blame men for pushing women to this point or should we blame women for choosing that path?
“If I am in a relationship with a broke guy and suddenly a rich mubaba comes my way you should not interfere. You just sit back and relax. You have my emotions and my heart and the mubaba has my time. In fact, you should be grateful he’s doing your roles paying rent and buying food in the house,” said Nell Nderitu.
Without debating, ladies have declared that money overpowers love. A lady would leave a relationship in that she is given all the love and attention and go for a guy who doesn’t even give her time all in the name of money and financial security.
“As a single mom I am willing to go to great extends and I have in order to protect and provide for my kid. Only single moms will understand this. Sometimes we do things not because we want to but because the situations we are in force us to,” Marya said.
From the stories out here and from the look of things, many ladies are willing to go through hell as long as at the end of the day they cry in a range rover.
Marya says she needs a roof over her head, her son needs school fees, food, and clothes and if it means dating a Mubaba to get all this done, then she has done it and wouldn’t hesitate to do it again. She says sometimes the things ladies do is for the sake of their children.
Catch the full Switchpod episode below;
