It is funny how we sometimes think that using the silent treatment will give you results in the relationship when in reality, it is a tool for self-sabotage.
Many times, we get into arguments while in a relationship. While we are at it, we can choose to be mature about it and talk things out. However, the petty side of us tells us we should keep quiet instead. Silent treatment according to research is a form of manipulation, defense, and even rejection.
What does silent treatment look like in a relationship?
- When your partner intentionally ignores you from time to time.
- You try to initiate conversations to no avail
- You feel constricted or punished by their silence
- The silent treatment extends for long periods and you never know when it will end
- Your partner makes it known to you that they have no intention of talking to you and prefer to engage with other people instead.
Even if you have had a fair share of success when it comes to the silent treatment card, here are reasons why it could potentially be the cause of your relationship’s downfall:
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- It creates an intimacy disconnect
Silent treatment decreases the intimate moments between you and your partner. Both of you cannot connect on either an emotional or physical plane. Over time, your partner may choose to end things or get the ‘consolation’ from elsewhere. (Which is honestly worse than breaking up)
- Builds hate and anger
Silent treatment obscures judgment. It causes a lot of tension between you two, which eventually leads to pent-up anger, frustration, and hate for one another. At this point, your relationship is not thriving on love, but rather on who will win the silence game.
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- It is a road straight to depression
If you think the silent treatment gets you the win, here is news for you. This manipulative stunt leads to the person on the receiving end becoming more out of touch with themselves. They get lonely, and anxious and start to think less of themselves. Some cannot bear the experience and end up either leaving or committing suicide.
Silent treatment in relationships is considered to be a form of emotional abuse. If this is a staple in your relationship, you need to have a talk with your partner or seek professional help from a therapist or a relationship coach.
