Marriage makes people fall into routines that are unbreakable and rather monotonous. After settling in, the title changes from baby girl to Mama Njoroge.
Have you ever met those people who have been married for so long they almost look alike? Usually, the marriage may be going into the 2nd decade and the partners are so accustomed to each other to a point of complete boredom. Nothing tickles you because you have grown on each other like a mold.
Marriages are like that. Since you cannot ask for a divorce in the name of boredom, you can always find ways to rekindle that spark that attracted you to each other in the first place.
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Here’s how to do it:
- Bring back the dates
Sweetie, those dates you took your wife on back in the day when you were trying to get into her good book should be dug out of that grave you buried them in. The responsibility that comes with marriage can make you forget about having a good time with your unicorn among horses. However, try to set up little movie dates, picnics, or evening strolls with your love every so often.
Your wife will be looking at you like the sun shines in your eyes again.
- Explore your bedroom
Couples in marriages these days eventually find themselves falling into a boring sex routine. Heck, some even prep a timetable for it; ‘sex is every Sunday after mass, you fail to avail, you wait for next week.’ If you are looking to spice your married life, you have got to change the goalpost. Try a little cosplay, maybe a sexy movie, sex toys, (don’t be shy), and make out like teenage kids if you must. Anything to bring the spark back.
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- Gifts, please
After marriage, all the gifting habits that were like a routine in your relationship die a natural death. To bring the fire back, fuel it with little gifts here and there. The more random they are, the better. Gifting expresses love in a way that makes your partner know you are always in their thoughts.
- Profess your love more
Many married people can hardly remember the last time they were told they are loved. There is no ‘babe or my love’ just Mama Watoto. As long as he comes back home every night, you can deal. Look here darling, saying ‘I love you’ to each other every day is like pumping the gas in your marriage. It will always be on a high.
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- Find your thing
Whether it is art or cooking, gym sessions, or bike riding; find an activity you and your partner can always do together. Let it be your thing. That will make you value each other more, plus, these activities are great ways to rekindle the fire of a marriage where only smoke hails.
