As the world marks Day 5 of the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, a personal story from one of Kenya’s most recognisable families has become a stark reminder of how deeply domestic abuse continues to cut across society.
This week, Saumu Mbuvi — daughter of former Nairobi governor Mike Sonko — said she is no longer interested in marriage, days after her sister, Salma, was allegedly assaulted by her husband. The incident, captured in a viral video showing Sonko confronting his son-in-law, has prompted widespread discussion on violence within homes.
In the clip, Sonko is seen questioning the man about repeated incidents of alleged abuse. He speaks plainly and with frustration. “Why are you beating my daughter?” he asks, warning that if the case is not reported, he will go to the police himself. His daughter’s visible injuries added weight to his words and fuelled public outrage.
The confrontation struck a chord, especially during this global period dedicated to highlighting violence against women and girls. Advocacy groups say it reflects the hidden reality many survivors face — silence, fear and repeated harm behind closed doors.
Saumu, responding to fans on TikTok, said the events around her sister had renewed her own reflections on past relationships. “I left that group a long time ago… unless a miracle happens,” she said when asked about marriage. She explained that she was focused on independence and raising her two children, adding, “Look for someone else. I closed that chapter.”
Her comments came as followers expressed concern and offered support. When one person warned her to avoid “men who fight,” she replied, “It’s only an insecure man who will start a fight… masculinity seems triggered nowadays.”
Saumu has previously spoken about the struggles in her former relationships with politicians Ben Gatu and ex-senator Anwar Loitiptip. She once claimed Loitiptip was abusive and a neglectful parent, although he did not publicly address the allegations.
While her split with Gatu was smoother and the two continue to co-parent, her experiences mirror the stories told by many Kenyan women: cycles of silence, fear of stigma and the challenge of rebuilding life after harm.
Today’s GBV campaign theme focuses on breaking silence and amplifying survivor voices — a message Saumu’s story embodies. Her openness, though personal, aligns with what activists say is crucial: speaking out, documenting violence, supporting survivors and ensuring accountability.
As the 16 Days campaign continues, her family’s ordeal has pushed the national conversation forward, reminding the public that gender-based violence is not a distant social issue. It happens in homes, in families that appear stable, and in relationships that once seemed promising.
For many advocates, Saumu’s firm declaration — “That chapter is closed” — reflects the wider call of this global campaign: to end violence, to protect those at risk, and to ensure survivors find safety, dignity and justice.
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