After a divorce, children may still hope for their parents to reconcile, which can make it difficult for them to accept a new person in their parent’s life.
As a single parent entering the dating scene, it’s not just about finding a partner, but also someone who can potentially become a parental figure to your child.
When helping your child cope with divorce, it’s important to consider when to introduce your new partner to them. Consider the following factors when deciding to introduce your new partner to your child:
How serious is the relationship?
Take time to evaluate the strength and potential longevity of your new relationship. It’s generally advisable to wait 6-12 months to introduce your children to your partner, as this duration allows you to assess the seriousness of the relationship.
Is your child accepting of a new person?
It’s important to have a conversation with your child about their feelings regarding the possibility of a new person joining the family. Understanding their perspective will help you gauge how they might react. Children who are not accepting of a new partner may act out in an attempt to disrupt your newfound happiness.
Where to meet?
When the time comes for the first meeting, choose an environment that your child enjoys and feels comfortable in. Avoid displaying affection such as touching or kissing during this initial meeting, as this can be overwhelming for the child. It’s important to let them become comfortable with your partner before introducing physical affection.
